Melvyn Tan
September 25, 2013 — By tanmelvyn@gmail.com

What I Know About Parenting I Learned From The Bible

[blockquote source=”Proverbs 24:3-4 (NIV)“]“Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.”[/blockquote] “How would I do it?”, was the question that I constantly ask myself about parenting. What approach should I use? How would I discipline my child? And today’s […]

[blockquote source=”Proverbs 24:3-4 (NIV)“]“Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.”[/blockquote]

“How would I do it?”, was the question that I constantly ask myself about parenting. What approach should I use? How would I discipline my child?

And today’s verses are just an affirmation that I am on the right path in moving forward.

Firstly, lets examine the word “house” used in the Bible. According to some commentaries, “house” denotes the family.

For example, in 1 Timothy 3:4-5 the KJV reads “One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)

Using the NIV, it translate to “He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)

Hence, the application from today’s verses is essentially: Learn, Live, and Lead

  • Learn: The verses state that the family must be built on wisdom. As used in Proverbs, the word “wisdom” refers to Jesus Christ, which is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. The only source of wisdom is from the Bible. Hence, schedule at least 20 minutes each day to study the Bible. I use the One Year Bible Companion along with the One Year Bible (NIV) published by Tyndale. Before I study the Bible, I pray to God to ask Him to show me and guide me to what I needed to learn today.  I would then highlight and annotate what appeals to me during my study using the Kindle Paperwhite.
  • Live: This is essentially in Matthew 16:24 (NIV) “Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.”  Based on what I have highlighted, I will do some research on the web on the commentaries for that verse.  Afterwards, I would look at how I am able to translate that wisdom into everyday living.  I always pray real hard for that insight to enable me to do that.  Sometimes it is quite obvious but other times I could complete the reading and still not find anything that jumps out at me. Usually that happens when I am not focused or just wanted to simply get it over and done with.
  • Lead: We all learn best by following others, especially if the people we follow are our role models. Some of us grew up with our parents as role models, which is great (if our parents are great role models). However, some of us rely on others, like a teacher, a friend, or even a celebrity. I am deeply concerned about who my children will turn to as their role models. And should they not consider me as the role model for them, at least I must not be a bad one. Hence, to lead them I must first lead myself, to get myself to do the things that I want them to do. To clean up after myself so that they would do the same. To be disciplined and get up on time and do the work, so that they would do the same.

Finally, the verse in 1 Timothy 3:4-5 also spoke to me that unless I am able to manage my own family well, I cannot be entrusted to manage God’s church, and here, God’s church refers to the people and not the organisation.

Father, thank you for Your blessings of the healthy and active children (Moses and Esther) we have. Father may You watch over them as they grow up and guide them in the ways that will bring Glory to Your Name. Father, I also pray that You will guide me as I Learn the wisdom in the Word, and also that You would give me the courage and strength to Live it out, so that I can not only Lead my family, but also Your Church. In Jesus name, Amen.