Melvyn Tan
November 8, 2013 — By tanmelvyn@gmail.com

Please Help Us

[blockquote source=”Ezekiel 18:20 (NIV)”]The one who sins is the one who will die. The child will not share the guilt of the parent, nor will the parent share the guilt of the child. The righteousness of the righteous will be credited to them, and the wickedness of the wicked will be charged against them.[/blockquote] You […]

[blockquote source=”Ezekiel 18:20 (NIV)”]The one who sins is the one who will die. The child will not share the guilt of the parent, nor will the parent share the guilt of the child. The righteousness of the righteous will be credited to them, and the wickedness of the wicked will be charged against them.[/blockquote]

You Made Me Angry
In the past, whenever I fought with my wife I’d almost always say, “it is you who make me angry”. And I’d rationalize that if she did this, this, and that; then it will be okay with me. But because she did otherwise, she’d made me angry.

You Chose to be Angry
Then one day, she made a comment, which made me angrier. She said, “I didn’t make you angry. ┬áIt is you who chose to be angry.” I was furious as my initial thoughts were; not only did you make me angry, now you are saying that I chose to be angry! What a preposterous statement that is.

In fact, up till when I embarked on the journey of personal mastery, I’ve always thought that if I felt a certain way it was some external factor that either made me happy or made me upset. I’d be happier if I can get that toy, that gadget, or that shiny new thing. And I’d be upset if people get into my way, or they didn’t do what I expect them to, or they simply disagree with me.

Freedom to Choose
Then I came across this concept: if how you felt was a result of what happened to you externally which you have no control nor influence over, then your life becomes dependent on what others did or did not do. In other words, others controlled your life. You have essentially used the gift given by God, freedom to choose, in a manner that disempowered you.

What if you took back control over self? You choose how you feel, what you do, what you think?

We Are Responsible
Today’s verse clearly tells us that we are responsible for our own sins. We cannot be faulted of the sins of our ancestors nor can we deny responsibility and point the figure at the other person, the external environment, the client and claim that it was because of that which cause you to sin.

How Can You Help?
Now, what if you have a set of skills that are of tremendous value to us. You could help us solve our problems. You could help us ease our pains. You could help us achieve our goals. You could be our critical friend. However, because of your doubts, you chose not to use those skills. You think we would not need it. You think its not that big a deal. You think it may not be worth our time. But right now, we are hurting.

Our Plea
Can we plead with you to be responsible and choose to use your skills to ease our pains. Please help us.

Prayer
Father, please forgive us for being afraid to use the talents You have given us to bless the world . We pray that You will guide us to be responsible and to bring our skills and talents and value to the world. In Christ name we pray, Amen.